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And be curious where it takes you

For most of my life, I have been paralyzed to step outside of my comfort zone. Taking steps towards things I wanted deep inside was unimaginable. I even deluded myself into thinking, ‘I have no idea what I really want.’ It was safer to think that than look deep inside my soul and see what was there. Learning to listen to my intuition was a hard and arduous process, but it was tremendously worth it.

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Me before driving

Have you ever had that experience when you have the same thought repeating in your mind over and over again? To do a certain thing but you’re either dismissing it as nonsense or vowing to do it but never seem to have the time for it? I’m guilty as charged. I lived most of my life like that. I didn’t even know that what essentially I was doing was self-sabotage. I thought that’s how life worked. You don’t get what you want. The first thing that I plunged myself into fully and never ever doubted or discarded it as nonsense was my novel. My deepest form of self-expression. Even though there is still a lot of work to be done on it, and even though there are times when I sit down with fear beside me, I do it. I come back to regularly and work on it.

You don’t have to know where you're going. You don’t have to know every detail on the road in front of you. You don’t have to know where a certain road could take you. All you have to do is take that next step. The next step that’s already in your mind, swirling there over and over. That thought that pops into your head and you flop it away, only to come back. I’m here to remind you that you will never know what’s on the other side of that step until you take it. You can make elaborate scenarios dismissing your idea but there’s only one way to find out to see what happens: do it. I know it’s hard and I know it’s scary. What helped me with this is the idea of framing the outcome of my action as something I’m curious about. Instead of thinking ‘What if this doesn’t work?’, saying with a smile on my face ‘I wonder what happens next.’ Curiosity is a powerful tool and can shape your inner experience, shifting it from fear towards childlike wonder and joy.

It’s been five years since I acquired my driving licence. After a month of being on the road, I caused an accident. I was tired and I missed a sign. Thankfully no one got hurt except the cars and I’m eternally grateful for that. I was shaking for days after that, I couldn’t believe I caused an accident, and I started to doubt my ability as a driver. I feared that I would cause bigger accidents and no one was safe beside me. I decided not to drive anymore. Then my kids arrived, and although it’s doable to use public transport with small children, driving them by car to places is MUCH easier. I put going back to my driving instructor on my 2024 goals but that goal just went past me. My fear and shame of causing an accident did not let me do it and kept me caged. Then my kids started kindergarten last autumn and it’s so much easier to drive them there than use public transport. I chose public transport nonetheless. Going back to my driving instructor swirled in my head nonstop but I still didn’t do it. Then I found a very useful tip in Florence Given’s paid subscriber chat where a subscriber shared a brilliant idea to create a to-do list for things she was scared of doing. I immediately created one for myself, the first item was ringing the driving instructor. And even though I was terrified, making that list made me call him that day. He was super nice to me, and reassured me that accidents happen and urged me to get on the road. After one session, I felt way more confident in my ability to drive and was pleased with myself to have taken this step. None of this would have happened if I didn’t orient myself towards my dreams, if I didn’t practice leaning into discomfort, if I would have let my fear and shame guide me, and most importantly, taking that next step. Even if it feels huge, it’s always just a tiny next step. And the road is not yet completed, I need to get back behind the driving wheel regularly and I still have a smaller portion of that fear beside me. But every time I do it, I am less frightened. The last time I even experienced a brief period of calm during driving.

So if you need one, this is your sign to take that tiny step, that’s going over and over in your head and make it a reality. If you don’t do something differently, how would you change? You don’t have to feel ready to do it, just do it! You’d be surprised what you’ll find on the other side. Also if you take steps often, it becomes a drug you cannot get off from. Creating new nurturing neural pathways is hard but worthwhile. Choose YOU. Stay in power.🔥

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